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6 Essential Tips for Successful Coliving: Maximize Harmony & Space with Roommates

Coliving, especially in bustling cities like Rotterdam, is rapidly evolving as a preferred housing solution. The Citylifer, rooted in this dynamic city, offers residents the comfort of private studios and vibrant community areas. While each resident enjoys their personal space, the shared areas are where the magic of community happens. However, sharing these spaces brings its own set of challenges. This article provides six essential tips for coliving residents to navigate and thrive in their shared community areas, ensuring a seamless and enjoyable coliving experience.

Tip 1: Establish Clear and Open Communication

Effective communication stands as the cornerstone of harmonious coliving. At The Citylifer, we’ve observed that residents actively engaging in open dialogue with their roommates experience fewer misunderstandings. It’s vital to foster an atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable voicing their opinions or concerns. Consider setting up a dedicated communication channel, whether it’s a group chat or a community message board. Regular check-ins, over a cup of coffee in the shared lounge, can make a difference. When conflicts arise – and they sometimes do – having established conflict resolution strategies can help. Remember, it’s not just about speaking; listening is equally crucial. Embracing these communication practices ensures that our community areas remain a hub of collaboration and mutual respect.

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Tip 2: Set Mutual Expectations and Boundaries

Boundaries are integral to any living arrangement, and coliving is no exception. Here at The Citylifer, we’ve witnessed the transformative power of well-set boundaries in fostering harmonious relationships. Initiating conversations about individual needs and preferences early on can save a lot of future headaches. Whether it’s about quiet hours, guest policies, or how the community kitchen should be used, clear ground rules create a comfortable environment for everyone. Respecting privacy, even in shared spaces, is essential. For example, some residents might prefer a heads-up before a gathering in the lounge or a movie night. Such mutual understandings aren’t restrictive; they’re the framework within which beautiful community interactions flourish. So, take the time to discuss, agree, and periodically revisit these shared expectations. It’s an investment in your collective peace and well-being.

Tip 3: Maintain Shared Spaces

Shared spaces are the heart of a coliving experience, and their upkeep is a collective responsibility. These areas thrive when everyone contributes to their cleanliness and order. A rotating cleaning schedule or shared chores list can be immensely helpful in distributing tasks fairly among residents. Beyond cleanliness, it’s about respecting each other’s belongings. If someone’s left their book in the lounge, it’s a small courtesy to leave it undisturbed. Additionally, thinking sustainably enhances our coliving experience. Simple practices like recycling, turning off unused lights, or conserving water reduce our environmental footprint and promote a culture of mindfulness. Efficient utilization of shared spaces ensures everyone can enjoy them, whether it’s for a quiet read, a group dinner, or a yoga session. When everyone plays their part, these communal areas remain vibrant, welcoming, and truly feel like home.

Tip 4: Foster a Supportive Community

Community is the essence of The Citylifer’s vision. Beyond shared walls and amenities, the bonds and friendships truly define coliving. Consider organizing regular social events or activities to nurture this sense of belonging. From potluck dinners to book clubs, these gatherings are an opportunity for residents to connect, share experiences, and build lasting relationships. It’s equally important to foster an environment of inclusivity. Celebrate the diverse backgrounds and stories that each resident brings to the table. Be there for one another during challenging times, offering support or simply a listening ear. This collaborative spirit transforms our community from just a living space to a support network. Embrace it, contribute to it, and watch as it enriches your coliving experience and your personal growth and well-being.

Tip 5: Financial Responsibilities and Transparency

If not handled with clarity and transparency, financial matters can become a point of contention in shared living arrangements. At The Citylifer, we advocate for open discussions about shared expenses for rent, utilities, or even communal groceries. Drawing up a clear financial agreement at the outset can eliminate future ambiguities. Using apps or shared spreadsheets can help track and divide expenses transparently. Ensure everyone is on the same page regarding contributions and that there’s a system for regular settlements. If disagreements do arise, addressing them promptly and maturely is crucial. Avoid letting financial disputes fester, as they can strain relationships. Prioritizing transparency in all financial matters promotes trust among residents and ensures a stress-free living environment where the focus remains on community and shared experiences, rather than monetary concerns.

Tip 6: Manage Conflicts Maturely and Promptly

While The Citylifer community thrives on harmony, disagreements are a natural part of human interactions. Addressing conflicts maturely is critical to maintaining a positive living environment. First and foremost, it’s essential to understand the root of disagreements. Taking a step back and evaluating the situation often provides clarity. Active listening is invaluable, allowing each party to feel heard and understood. When discussing issues, using “I” statements helps express feelings without placing blame. If conflicts persist, considering mediation or seeking third-party assistance can provide a neutral perspective. It’s vital to remember that resolution is always the end goal, not winning an argument. Swiftly and maturely handling disputes ensures that the spirit of community remains intact, and residents continue to enjoy the enriching experience that coliving at The Citylifer offers.

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Path to Successful and Harmonious Coliving

Navigating coliving at The Citylifer is an enriching journey, made smoother with mindfulness, respect, and effective communication. These six tips offer a roadmap to cultivate an environment where everyone thrives, both individually and as a cohesive community. Embracing these principles ensures shared spaces become hubs of collaboration, mutual respect, and lasting memories. As we reflect on the essence of coliving, it’s evident that the experience is far more than a shared living space; it’s about building connections, understanding, and a shared sense of home. Here’s to upholding the values of respectful and responsible coliving and making every moment at The Citylifer count!

The Citylifer Perspective

At The Citylifer, we view coliving as a lively blend of individual privacy and vibrant community interaction. Our design choices, community initiatives, and the amenities we offer are carefully curated to foster meaningful interactions among residents. We’ve seen the transformative power of a well-knit community, and this drives our ongoing efforts to enhance the coliving experience.


Here’s how The Citylifer as the coliving operator attempts to further  nurture a harmonious and enriching coliving environment:

Community clusters

To ensure meaningful and lasting connections, The Citylifer has innovated the concept of “community clusters,” each limited to a maximum of 25 residents. The smaller community size makes it easier to meet people and build genuine relationships, but also creates higher levels of acceptance and inclusivity among residents. Adding to this, existing residents actively participate in the selection of new community members, a process referred to as “cooptation.”


Within these intimate clusters, you’ll find Trailblazers—long-standing residents who guide newcomers. These Trailblazers can also play a vital role in conflict resolution among residents and maintain open communication with The Citylifer in case any issues require escalation.

General house rules

On top of rules residents agree upon among each other, The Citylifer has established a set of general house rules to make sure residents feel comfortable and at home in our buildings. Respecting the privacy of other residents is paramount. Also keeping the shared areas clean and being mindful of noise levels during the evening and night are key to a comfortable living environment. 

Cleaning of shared areas included

One of the main concerns in a coliving arrangement is the cleanliness and tidiness maintained by other residents, especially in shared areas. That’s why at The Citylifer, we’ve included regular cleaning for all shared areas, especially the Family Rooms. This way, we avoid any fuss about cleaning duties and keep the spaces neat and tidy. It’s a simple step to make shared living more enjoyable and stress-free for everyone!


How do I adjust to living with roommates?

To adjust to living with roommates, it’s essential to establish clear communication about expectations and boundaries from the outset. Embrace flexibility and understanding, recognizing that mutual respect and open dialogue are key to a harmonious shared living experience.

What is the difference between coliving and roommates?

Coliving is a contemporary housing model where individuals share common spaces while often having private areas, emphasizing community and shared experiences. In contrast, roommates typically refer to individuals sharing a rental property, primarily focusing on cost-sharing rather than community building.

How do you live successfully with roommates?

To live successfully with roommates, prioritize open communication to set mutual expectations and boundaries. Foster a culture of respect, understanding, and compromise to smoothly navigate shared responsibilities and daily interactions.

How would you handle a conflict between two roommates?

To handle a conflict between two roommates, initiate a calm and open dialogue, encouraging each party to express their concerns and listen actively. If needed, seek mediation or a neutral third-party perspective to facilitate a fair and constructive resolution.

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